That fact that you dream to get back or hate the ex-husband, speaks about you more than about him. Still any half a century ago such concept as the ex-boyfriend simply did not exist. Girls had admirers of the period before marriage life and the husband. Now the life became much more interesting – and it is more difficult.
From love to hatred is one step only. And when he has offended you, has betrayed, has offended, you have made immediately this step – have departed aside, from him far away, have run up hill and down dale and now and do not wish to hear about his biography. But everything is more difficult; ex is impossible to send into exile on the Moon, and the joint past – to erase the button delete. Very many reminds you about him. Places in which you walked, cafe in which sat. Even things much more prosaic – for example, his favorite ice cream or juice – force your heart, let and absolutely imperceptibly for associates to miss a bit and be compressed. After all he still causes in you strong feeling. It is unimportant, as it is called, – love or hatred. It is unimportant that you wish to make with this person, – to kill or love. You are not indifferent to him.
To endure divorce or parting with the loved one, time is required. The emotions not lived and not experienced by us, not recognized pain and insult heavy cargo remain in us. To go with them on a life it is unpleasant. Moreover, not expressed aggression in relation to your ex can be shown in the most improper situations – in conversations with the most different extraneous people.
So it is useful to try to give vent to this aggression. For example, you should sit down and write some angry letters (to send them to him is not necessarily) or to read in emptiness of a room a verdict of guilty. You could cry half-nights, considering photos. To recollect everything that was in relations good and bad, and to cry second half of night. You could send fifty spiteful messages. In general you should do unpleasant, but necessary work. But then you, most likely, will feel… Simplification. Become quieter and more indifferent.
And only after that you could think again if you want to get him back or not. Almost all friends are assured that you have perfectly coped with a problem: yes, it was difficult, yes, you have quarreled, yes, have dispersed, but now you have other life. However at night to you dreams that you again together, and among the working day you catch yourselves on thought on that, accidentally to meet your ex. Nevertheless you never will dial his number. To initiate a meeting, as it seems to you, is wrong. However, if really it would be desirable to call, forgive, embrace, start over again to meet or live together, it is necessary to take the first step. But only it is necessary to be assured that after a word “greetings” you do not fall to a speech for the prosecution.
Wish you good luck!
It is almost impossible to avoid the cases when you have to face the how to get your ex back situation. The biggest mistake here is that people think too much about how to get your ex back, instead of putting this whole story in another way. It is not about how to get your ex back, really. It is about how to make it interesting again.